When a playboy falls in love

It started with a random text

“Hey, u free this Friday?”

“Omg, the hot guy from school texted me!” I exclaimed.

With adrenaline rushing through my body, I called my bestie, “babe, what should I do next?”


It’s been a year since that first awkward date

No, nothing happened, but we became best of friends

He tells me how I’m too cool to be his girlfriend

Hearing that for the first time, did give me a mini heartbreak.


I know all about his crushes, hookups and one night stands

Some of it make me wanna wonder, how this playboy ended up being my friend

When I hear him proclaiming love to seven different girls

All I say to him, “Thank God! I’m not the one on the receiving end.”


November 2018, the usual 2 a.m. chat

“I think I’m falling in love with you” it said

To which I laughed and replied, “I’m too smart to be outplayed by your lies.

Gimme some time to get as dumb as that chick from your Art class.”


We both lost sleep that night

Me kind of hoping that he wasn’t lying

And him..

Because he didn’t lie.


*hearts*

Pallavi.

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Is it too late to say I Love You Too?

It didn’t happen at the first sight

It didn’t happen when you walked me home

Nor did it happen with your touch

Or with the nights spent on the phone

But today, I wake up with this feeling, replaying those moments back and forth

Wishing to to call you and tell you how I feel

But I know it’s already too late

As how my previous calls got missed

Now I guess, it’s my turn

To delete you from my contact list

*Hearts*

Pallavi

Attraction & Need for Affiliation

Why do we date? get married? or build close friendship? The reason is the same. We all need human contact. Someone to love and be loved in return.

We often feel this strong need to affiliate with the members of opposite sex. Intensity may vary from person to person. People showing dismissing avoidant attachment style might even deny the fact that they need anyone, but …

Researches have proven that any strong, independant woman saying that she needs no man to take care of her, have the same tendency and need to affiliate as any other woman. Same is the case with men.

Let’s talk about a subject which serves as the basis to form an interpersonal relationship.

Everyone at some point have been attracted to someone. Have you ever asked yourself why.

Why do you like that girl who sits on the last bench of the first row?

OR

The shy, introvert guy who gives you secret glares.

Why are we attracted to someone we’re attracted to?

(Factors contributing to attraction)

Physical attractiveness

This goes without saying, we like what we see and vice versa. A pretty face always draws attention.

There are two types of face which are considered attractive in women.

  • Baby face with big eyes and small nose. Like Lucy Hale & Alia bhatt.

  • One with prominent jawline and face structure. Like Emily Ratajkowski & Angelina Jolie.

Physical Proximity

We bond with people we spend time with on regular basis. The more we meet the person, the more we get attracted towards him/her. Our mind responds more positively towards a familiar face.

Hence, it can be said that repeated exposure or constant contact of the person plays an important role in attraction.

Similarity

We are more likely to be attracted towards a person who possess the same traits as ours.

For example, being a dog lover, I would probably get along with someone who love dogs as well. On a broader sense, who shares the same mind set as mine.

Furthermore, it has been noticed that people who like each other start mimicing each other too. Also, the more we mimic the person, the more attractive we become to that person.

Reciprocity

We tend to like people who expresses their liking towards us. So if you are crushing on somebody, let them know. They might end up liking you back. *wink*

Other factors

Factors like pheromones ( chemical substance released by our body), of a person also adds to attraction. Pheromones are usually released by our sweat, hair etc. If a person is attracted to your pheromones, it will increase his/her breathing and heart beat.

So if your partner likes your natural odor, congratulations! Your pheromones are acting in your favour.

Studies say that men are attracted to women who are more like his mother in some ways. Similarly, women gets attracted to men who slightly resembles her father. Weird. But true.


I did a survey among a small group of my friends, asking what they find attractive in a guy. This was the result. 👇

  • Way of communicating & intellect.
  • Good sense of humour.
  • Hoarse voice
  • Smile
  • Broad shoulders and prominent jawlines are also considered attractive. Some even have fetish for adam’s apple in a guy.

I remember an incident where I spotted a guy (very good looking indeed), reading a book and I just thought that a guy with such an angel face should be on tinder, swiping left- right making matches. But the fact that he was there alone super glued to his book, seemed really attractive to me.

You never know what might attract you towards someone. We all have this list of how our idol partner should be like, but sometimes we feel attracted towards someone who does not fit best with the image we hold of the idol partner.

Attraction is confusing. It’s far more than just looks. Even while having a normal conversation, tons of things are happening to your body and mind subconsciously which eventually leads to attraction.


Hey guys! Share your views on this topic. What do you find attractive in a person? I want to know!! 💛


The corner table

After spending a year being broken, hurt and confused,

I sat at the corner table and ordered a burger, fries along with juice.

One year has passed, they said everything’s gonna heal,

I recall their words having the first bite of my meal.

Things have definitely gotten better to a large extent,

But this corner table is associated with so many memories and sentiments.

The firse date, you came late.

But your smile, damn it, was worth the wait.

You became my favourite person from the moment we got along,

And my playlist was full with your favourite songs.

I remember telling my friends that I feel like the luckiest girl,

Who knew our story would take such an ugly turn.

How once you used to rid me of the blues,

Later all I got back was silence in response to my I love you.

Don’t get me wrong, the corner table is not symbolic of my pain.

Cause I met an amazing person here. Someone new.

He is my favourite person now, my bestfriend, my 3 a.m. call.

My playlist is full with his favourite songs.

He sings to meTell me what you want me to do,

And I love the way his eyes sparkles, everytime I say I love you.

Let’s talk about love

How do you define love?

Psychologists may define love as a combination of emotions, and behaviours that plays an important role in intimate relationships.

A group of youngsters would probably confine love into~

  • Intense eye contact & brushing of hands.
  • That 4 a.m. phone call.
  • The urge to meet that person again soon after a goodbye.
  • A romantic love song.

Love has always been the most interesting subject of psychological research. Based on theses studies, I’m going to talk about the types of love.

Passionate love

How many times have you heard someone saying “I cannot live without her/him.”

Or “I’m willing to do ANYTHING for her.”

Movies and songs highly glorifies this kind of love.

Something in the way you move, makes me think I can’t live without you.” ~ Rihanna

In this type, the person feels intense arousal and irresistible feelings towards the other person. A person may often act like a maniac when their feelings takes control over them. That’s how we get the term crazy in love.

All a person do is daydream about their lover and their whole existence revolves around that one person. This type of love accompanies with lot of anxiety, insecurity and jealousy, hence, is not considered stable for forming long run relationships like marriage.

Companionate love

This kind of love is not as overwhelming as passionate love, but is considered more stable comparatively.

In this the partners are attracted to each other, and they treat each other with respect and care. It is based on friendship.

Along with this, there exists few other types of love~

Game playing love

Game playing love is where a person flirts or hook up with someone for their interest without having any feelings. They may also date two people simultaneously.

Logical love

In logical love, both partners get involved with each other logically and makes decision thinking about the longrun.

Possessive love

This involves extremely possesing over someone and having constant fear of losing the person.

Unrequited love

Unrequited love is when only one person falls in love alone.

Selfless love

The most rare kind. In this the person genuinely cares for the other person, and would rather get hurt instead of hurting that person.

Sternberg’s Triangular Model of Love

According to Robert Sternberg, we need 3 components namely intimacy, passion and commitment to form an idealistic relationship.

Sternberg’s model brings into light few other components of love. Let’s discuss.

Liking~ Mutual attraction but no passion or commitment.

Romantic love~ There is a lot of passion and intimacy, but lacks commitment. Most teenage love stories sounds like that.

Fatuous love~ No intimacy. Only passion and commitment. Also known as fantasy love.

Empty love ~ Only commitment. No passion and intimacy. For example, most arranged marriages.

Companionate love ~ There is commitment and intimacy but no passion. For example, long term marriages where passion just fades out.

Consummate love ~ The perfect kind of love, difficult to attain. ( Intimacy+ passion+ commitment)


What’s your definition of love? Let me know in the comments!


*hearts*

Pallavi

My favourite Lana Del Rey song quotes.

If you guys don’t know already, I repeat, I have a huge girl crush on Lana Del Rey. I think she is an incredible songwriter and a wonderful singer. That voice. Ama-zing! 💓

Her songs unlike other songs, is a poetry, it’s an art. Just listen to a LDR song and you’ll know what I’m talking about.

Here’s a compilation of my favourite Lana Del Rey quotes from some of her songs.

You fit me better than my favourite sweater.

Blue jeans, white shirt

Walked into the room

You made my eyes burn.

Everybody told me love was blind

Then I saw your face

You blew my mind.

Boy, look at you, looking at me.

All the pretty stars shine for you, my love. Am I the girl that you dream of?

Will you still love me, when I’m no longer young and beautiful?

When I got nothing but my aching soul?

I know you will.

I walked with you once upon a dream. I know you. That look in your eyes is so familiar a gleam.

Loving her was like shaking hands with the devil.

It’s you, it’s you, it’s all for you. Everything I do.

Are you gonna hurt me now?

Or are you gonna hurt me later?

We don’t need nobody, cause we got each other, or atleast I pretend.

No man can keep me together, been broken since I was born.

Sometimes I wish I was a beautiful machine, so I could resist your kiss, and not cry when you’re mean.

But I can’t help him, can’t make him better. And I can do nothing about his strange weather.

Meet me in the pale moon light. Understand this, I’m not looking for love.

Your hands on my hips, your name on my lips. Over and over again, like my only prayer.

I think I’ll miss you forever, like the star miss the sun in the morning skies.

Your soul is haunting me and telling me everything is fine, but I wish I was dead.

There is no remedy for memory, your face is like a melody.

I wanna say I miss you so much, but something keeps me really quite.

There is no relief, I see you in my sleep.

It’s not fashionable to love me.

Lay me down tonight, on my diamonds and pearls.

You’re a hard man to love, but I’m a hard woman to keep track of.

Baby, love me cause I’m playing on the radio. How do you like me now?

Cause I was filled with poison but blessed with beauty and rage.

Love you more than those bitches before.

Live fast, die young, be wild and have fun.

I feel free when I see no one, and nobody knows my name.

I’m interested in the gorgeous side of life, but also familiar with the dark side too.

They judge me like a picture book, by the colours, like they forgot to read.